In Part 1 of our abundance mindset series, we discussed daily practices to help you build a more positive, grateful outlook. Today we are going to go beyond daily practice and focus on supplemental exercises. Sometimes a mama just needs to dig deeper because the daily practice isn’t enough. Or perhaps you just need more. Whatever the reason, it’s all good stuff!
The following exercises are designed for those who want to take their abundance mindset practice to the next level. If you have not read our first article on building a daily practice, we suggest you start there.
Exercise #1: Create A Positive Outcome For Your Fears.
Instead of keeping our fears on autoloop in our heads, it’s important to write them down. Additionally we can challenge those fears by writing our worst case scenario followed by writing out a positive outcome. From there, we train our minds to focus on the positive outcomes. This way we don’t live in a perpetual state of anxiety and glum. Here is an example of how to perform this exercise with a few common fears:
|Fear||Negative Outcome||Positive Outcome|
|I will never make enough money||I will struggle and feel deprived compared to peers; my self-esteem will suffer||With consistent effort and focus I will reach my income goals|
|My child will not test in to the gifted program||By not being in the gifted program, he/she will miss out on academic challenges||The school system provides my child with a wonderful education. My child has parental support at home as well. He/she will go to college if they desire to. It is most important that my child be a good citizen and find passions, fulfillment and purpose in life than be the brightest. There is a path for everyone, including my child.|
|I am not as attractive as I once was as I age||I will look frumpy as I grow older and feel as though I am deteriorating||Everyone ages. By maintaining my health and fitness I will age beautifully and with grace. Whenever I want to feel extra special, styling my hair, a cute outfit, a shower, and a touch of make-up goes a long way.|
Tip: Create three columns on a sheet of paper. List your fears and create both negative and positive outcomes. When you are done, fold the paper so that your fears are on one side and your positive outcomes are next to them. When you encounter a fear again, refer to your sheet and repeat the positive outcome. Or try making a table in a digital document spreadsheet. Then hide the negative outcome column so that you only see the positive outcome.
Exercise #2: Compare Yourself To Yourself To Cultivate An Abundance Mindset. Not To Others.
Instead of comparing your house to someone else’s, your income to a friend’s, or your child’s academic progress to one of their classmates, compare your current situation to that of your past. Notice the progress in your own life. Ask yourself, am I doing my best?
MK here, with a real life example of my own. One of my weaknesses is beautiful houses. I’m a southern girl who grew up in a single family home with a nice, green backyard. As an adult, I struggle at times with living in a townhome in an urban area with no yard and lots of street traffic. Sometimes I find myself comparing my living situation to that of other peers. Naturally, I get frustrated when I focus on what they have in comparison to what I have. However, if I focus on my own personal progression, it is quite amazing. Here a few details of that progression:
Now it’s your turn to take an area of your life where you often compare yourself to others and instead work on comparing yourself to your own progress over the years. What do you see?
Exercise #3: Wish Others Happiness.
This is probably the most difficult of all the exercises. But when a friend or an acquaintance receives an accolade, reward, or success, instead of seething with jealousy or comparing ourselves to them and wondering why we are lacking, can we instead wish them genuine happiness and peace? Can we celebrate their accomplishment in our own hearts?
Let’s say a friend receives a promotion that will significantly increase her family’s income. Instead of focusing on how we will fall behind financially and will never be able to keep up with her lifestyle, can we instead, pause? Can we sit with our emotions for a moment and be curious about them? Can we ultimately shift our thoughts from scarcity to an abundance mindset by saying aloud, “I wish (person’s name) happiness. I wish (person’s name) joy. I celebrate alongside (person’s name) and am grateful for her/his success.”
Take some time in the morning, night, or at naptime to test out some of these exercises. What patterns do you see? Are they effective at helping you focus on the beauty and joy in your own life? We would love to hear from you, so let us know!
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